Today I woke up so sick! I could hardly move without wanting to vomit! My wonderful husband though decided to take 3 out of the 4 children to the gym and then the store, this way I could stay at home and rest. Well he had a meeting for work tonight; which meant me alone with four kids. I wont lie I am so glad they are in bed now! It was a long 3 hours without him.
The kids refused to eat, they didn’t want to pick up their toys, and it was non stop! They were whining over everything. I love my children more and more every day, but sometimes a mom needs a break. It was wonderful being alone with our daughter Marlene, but I would like time all to myself. Moms don’t get sick days. I didn’t get anything done today! I have been slacking on the housework and everything. We just got back from vacation, it was wonderful, and I am still in vacation mode. I don’t want to come back yet.
My wonderful husband cooked dinner for the children before he left and all he asked was that I make the bread sticks. Needless to say I’m so sick I was busy doing other things and burnt them. It was a good laugh when he got home though. Things are very rough in the household right now with me being sick and having all 4 kids plus my husband being home. I need to get back on schedule that way my house is somewhat back to organization rather than looking like a tornado went off in it. I know it drives my husband insane and I honestly feel bad, but I will get back to it once I start feeling better!
If it wasn’t for my husband today, I have no idea how I would’ve gotten through the day. It has been really stressful and busy. With him by my side though I know we can accomplish anything. He helps me when I am feeling down and just need someone to be there for me. He is truly my rock and I couldn’t ask for a better person to have by my side right now.
Co-Parenting is very hard, but is very essential in a relationship where there involves other kids. I know we don’t co-parent with our kids mom, because she refuses to tell us anything or talk to us. I try and tell them that they are only affecting the children by not getting along but they don’t see it that way.
They only see it as this is my time that is your time. I believe both parents should attend parent teacher conferences, extracurricular activities, and just be there anytime the kids need a support system. Not for someone to knowingly shut the other parent out of the children’s life, because they want someone else o be their parent.
I can say from personal experience not learning to co-parent with someone is very hard and takes a toll on the other parent. I don’t have a voice when it comes to kids according to their mom, which to me is wrong. I’m not just a step parent, I’m a PARENT. I do everything for those girls and give them everything they need. I’m just as much a mother to them as their own mom, but she doesn’t see it that way.
Its hard being a step parent I will say that now, but it is well worth it. I get extra love and experience a relationship that is absolutely wonderful. My life may be mayhem 98% of the time but it is worth it with my 4 kids. They all call me mom and I wouldn’t trade that for the world. I love being a mother, but I just wish that we could all work together and get on the same page.
When this finally happens I will be a happier person. Especially a person with less stress! Its very stressful having to raise 4 kids and 2 of whom aren’t yours, and the mother refuses to communicate. We try and call to talk to the girls and the girls tell us they ask to call, but she doesn’t let them. Maybe one day she will stop punishing the girls for her own selfish reasoning’s and just help co-parent the babies. They need to put their feelings aside and work together. I tell myself all the time ‘Just breathe and remember there is light at the end of the tunnel’.
Sitting here tonight doing my schoolwork, yes I’m in college, I started to realize how truly lucky I am. I have a wonderful husband who works very hard to support our family. We may fight and really dislike each other at times, but we will always love one another. We have a total of 4