A Sick Mom

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Today I woke up so sick! I could hardly move without wanting to vomit! My wonderful husband though decided to take 3 out of the 4 children to the gym and then the store, this way I could stay at home and rest. Well he had a meeting for work tonight; which meant me alone with four kids. I wont lie I am so glad they are in bed now! It was a long 3 hours without him.

The kids refused to eat, they didn’t want to pick up their toys, and it was non stop! They were whining over everything. I love my children more and more every day, but sometimes a mom needs a break. It was wonderful being alone with our daughter Marlene, but I would like time all to myself. Moms don’t get sick days. I didn’t get anything done today! I have been slacking on the housework and everything. We just got back from vacation, it was wonderful, and I am still in vacation mode. I don’t want to come back yet.

My wonderful husband cooked dinner for the children before he left and all he asked was that I make the bread sticks. Needless to say I’m so sick I was busy doing other things and burnt them. It was a good laugh when he got home though. Things are very rough in the household right now with me being sick and having all 4 kids plus my husband being home. I need to get back on schedule that way my house is somewhat back to organization rather than looking like a tornado went off in it. I know it drives my husband insane and I honestly feel bad, but I will get back to it once I start feeling better!

If it wasn’t for my husband today, I have no idea how I would’ve gotten through the day. It has been really stressful and busy. With him by my side though I know we can accomplish anything. He helps me when I am feeling down and just need someone to be there for me. He is truly my rock and I couldn’t ask for a better person to have by my side right now.

Ginger Mama

bay wearing to get things done
bay wearing to get things done

 

How I started Planning

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Before I got married, I was so unorganized. I didn’t have a care in the world. I would go day by day, hour by hour. Finding things to do and missing already scheduled things. I would have plans with a friend I would forget about, doctors appointments I would miss, or even family events I’d miss. It became a huge problem for me to be quite honest. When I got married though we had a total of three kids right off the bat. Our son and then his two girls, so I had no room for missed dates anymore. I had to do something and fast.

I began searching online on how to become more organized and one day I decided to put it into affect. I decided to make a binder filled with all the things i had to do that day, week, and month. At first it was going great, I wasn’t missing or forgetting about a thing! Except I started to realize that I was slacking on my cleaning, bad.. My husband would get upset over this terribly, and it would cause us to get into an argument. Finally, I had enough and decided to add a cleaning schedule to my binder. once I inserted that, things started to run more smoothly around the house.

I was seeing a happier husband which made for a happier wife. i then began making my own inserts for my binder. Which I won’t lie, it was pretty difficult. Everything started to fall into place for me. I felt like I had everything under control until I had to start taking care of my father-in-law. He has Alzheimer’s and I take him to the doctors, visit him daily, go to the gym with him, and do his pills. Well it started to put a huge damper in my schedule, because I couldn’t find time to do everything in one day. I had to completely redo all of my inserts again to work around him as well. I began to forget things that I was told to do or appointments I made that day and it started to get really upsetting for me. I then created this insert to be able to jot down any information I needed to Blog topics, doctors appointments, refill reminders, basically anything I needed them for.

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Once I FINALLLLLLLY  got organized again life decided to knock me down one last time. I started to forget groceries! I would go to cook a meal and not have all the ingredients that I needed to make it. After doing that about 6 times I decided to make a weekly and monthly meal planning kit. This helped a lot because I shop every month and sometimes every two weeks for groceries. Next to my weekly kit had an ingredients section so I know what I need every time. This helped me because I could check my pantry, fridge, and freezer every week for the ingredients. You may wonder why I use both monthly and weekly, and that is a question I love to answer. I do it because when we go shopping at the end of each month I can compare which ingredients I need exactly for the month so we are not over or under stocked. I then do the weekly planning because it shows me what I need for that week and if I used it already I know I need to get more before that day. I try to stay as organized as possible.

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Ginger Mama

School and Life

So I am in this IT class, and it is hard for me. I won’t lie when I say that I struggle a lot at it mainly because I have no idea what i am doing. I can atch numerous videos on it and still never understand exactly what I am doing.  I have a relatively good grade in the class though, only because I follow his rubric to a T and never miss a thing on it. I’m not necessarily learning anything from the class, but I am doing great!

I just had a HUGE power point due and I have been stressing over my grade for a week now. Well guess what? I got a 16/16! I’ve never been more excited until now. I was literally screaming I was so happy. Don, my husband, didn’t know what to think until I told him why I was so happy. This was a big deal for me, because I worked really hard for a week straight on this. I exceeded everything that he required and to be completely honest, I cant tell you a thing about it!

It is hard to juggle my schoolwork with everything, but it will be all worth it in the end. I am going to school for my Associates in health Administration and also a certificate for medical coding and billing. I am excited to start my career when the kids go to school. Don wants me to be a stay at home mom until all the children are in school full-time, that way we don’t have to worry about them in someone else’s care.

Especially now a days. There have been so many bad things happening in daycare’s and by babysitters that I cant trust anyone with my children. Well my mom I can trust. She just spoils the kids rotten. They love their Nonna very much. If she was a stay at home grandma then the children would definitely be in her care rather than anyone else’s, but no she has to have a job! haha

Our oldest daughter, Makayla, absolutely loves the fact that I go to school. Mainly because I tell her that if she doesn’t bother mama when doing her schoolwork that my very first paycheck we are going out shopping! She hasn’t let that one live down, not even a little. The two younger ones, Liam and Addison, still don quite understand what I am doing; other than the fact I am on the computer. I hope to inspire them one day that its never too late to go back to school. As long as you have the right mind set, everything is possible. No matter what it is, and I hope when they are older that they can look back at these moments and remember that.

Being a Step Parent

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This blog is going to be about my experience as a step-mom. So far it has been a very rough ride. My husband and I have two children together, and he has two little girls with his ex-wife. They do NOT get along what so ever. In fact they actually hate each other. Well their two little girls are my whole world. We call our family a clan and I couldn’t be any more happy with what we have.

Their mother though, she drives me insane. She refuses to let us know anything about the children, or what is going on in their lives unless it is convenient for her. One day she may read all this, and think ‘I did it. I really did my job on making this woman’s life hell’. Which she has.. There are days it actually affects my marriage, because of how rude and inconsiderate she can be. I am a Christian woman but it is HARD being a step parent. Very hard.

Her main priority is to try to keep the children away. Sorry but that will NEVER happen. My husband and her do not see eye to eye at all, where her and I semi get along. I do it for the kids. Not her, not my husband, not myself, but for those children. She shows me no respect what so ever. Has told me several times I am not their parent so I have no say, and I don’t understand how she can say these things! I treat and love those girls as if they are my own. I have cried myself to sleep numerous times over this. Just because there is the word Step in front of mom, I am still a PARENT. They call me mom as well, and they get treated the same way my two do.

I guess I am writing this blog to let other women know there will always be light at the end of the tunnel. At least that’s what I keep telling myself. I am trying to always be optimistic and to be there for my husband, but it is hard at times. I battle a very painful health condition, take care  of the children, do the housework, raise a puppy, take care of my husband, my marriage, my father-in-law, and try to stay organized on top of it all which makes it very rough on me to be there for someone constantly. Especially when you can’t be there for yourself.

I guess all a ‘step’ mom wants, is to be treated and respected for what she really is. A MOM. I am a mother not a step mother. I have enrolled the girls into sports, I buy them clothes, feed them, and anything else they need or want, so therefore I am a mom and deserve the same respect as one. Just because I didn’t carry them or give birth to them doesn’t make me any less of a mother to them.

‘just breathe Justine, there is light at the end of the tunnel’

 

GingerMama

Loving Life

Sitting here tonight doing my schoolwork, yes I’m in college, I started to realize how truly lucky I am. I have a wonderful husband who works very hard to support our family. We may fight and really dislike each other at times, but we will always love one another. We have a total of 4

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