The Importance of Co-Parenting

I know yes she has already wrote a blog on co-parenting, but I never wrote about the true importance of them. Trying to get along with the parent of your children is highly important! You don’t want your kids growing up in a broken family. They need to see their parents getting along for their sake. Sadly this is not the case with my family and it breaks my heart. Our oldest daughter asks me all the time why her mommy and daddy don’t get along and I just tell her that they have their differences. It just hurts the children.

How hard do you think it will be to miss your child’s first soccer game, first day of school, or even school pictures? These are things we have to deal with, and it takes a huge toll on my husband. I feel so bad for him on a daily basis, because of everything he has to miss. There are days where the kids drive us insane, but nobody wants to miss these important things. They are big moments in a child’s life and its something that really does mean a lot to the kids. They want their parents to be there for them always and its hard to be there when ‘you’re not allowed’. I cant wait for everything to change soon and be able to attend everyhing that we want to.

Trying to co-parent with someone is very hard. People need to just put their feelings aside and let each other be there for the kids. I know it broke my heart not being able to see all of Makayla’s soccer games. So was my parents, because they play a huge role in their life as well. Being around the chidren is the highlight of their days anymore, and to be deprived of seeing them do something they ove is just hurtful. I pray and I pray that they can finally workout their differences and just get along for once. I just want the kids to have a united family. I understand that for some families that it is nearly impossible to coincide with o another, but I ant mine to o it.

I hate having to see the children suffer from their families not getting along. They need to learn to how to put their feelings aside and get along. That is a hard lesson in life. If someone at their school or work doesn’t get along with them, they don’t need to know to treat that person poorly because that’s how their parents do it. They need to learn to kill people with kindness. That is what my family always taught me growing up and that’s what my personal beliefs are.

 

Hopefully all of you can learn to co-parent for your children and let them know that love is everywhere

 

Ginger Mama

A Sick Mom

Hello Friends!

Today I woke up so sick! I could hardly move without wanting to vomit! My wonderful husband though decided to take 3 out of the 4 children to the gym and then the store, this way I could stay at home and rest. Well he had a meeting for work tonight; which meant me alone with four kids. I wont lie I am so glad they are in bed now! It was a long 3 hours without him.

The kids refused to eat, they didn’t want to pick up their toys, and it was non stop! They were whining over everything. I love my children more and more every day, but sometimes a mom needs a break. It was wonderful being alone with our daughter Marlene, but I would like time all to myself. Moms don’t get sick days. I didn’t get anything done today! I have been slacking on the housework and everything. We just got back from vacation, it was wonderful, and I am still in vacation mode. I don’t want to come back yet.

My wonderful husband cooked dinner for the children before he left and all he asked was that I make the bread sticks. Needless to say I’m so sick I was busy doing other things and burnt them. It was a good laugh when he got home though. Things are very rough in the household right now with me being sick and having all 4 kids plus my husband being home. I need to get back on schedule that way my house is somewhat back to organization rather than looking like a tornado went off in it. I know it drives my husband insane and I honestly feel bad, but I will get back to it once I start feeling better!

If it wasn’t for my husband today, I have no idea how I would’ve gotten through the day. It has been really stressful and busy. With him by my side though I know we can accomplish anything. He helps me when I am feeling down and just need someone to be there for me. He is truly my rock and I couldn’t ask for a better person to have by my side right now.

Ginger Mama

bay wearing to get things done
bay wearing to get things done

 

A little mom to mom rant

You know I had this whole blog written about this woman I couldn’t stand, and i was about to post it until i realized how petty i was being. I need to stop letting these little things bother me so much. Its just hard working hard to get where you are and others get things handed to them. it drives me insane anymore. I started this blog to help others like me. step moms who aren’t involved because they cant be, women suffering from endometriosis, women suffering from  failing marriage, how to manage having a manipulative man, dealing with an abusive man, managing mayhem daily, all your planning needs, and basically anything else that you want t talk about.

I was excited how many views I got on my regular wordpress blog the first night, and th is why i decided to make this one. I hope that people will start seeing the honesty behind my blogs and why I write them. I want people to know someone is always here and will always care. I went through a lot of struggles in my past and now look a me. I’m a stay at home mom blogger, who hopes and prays that her blog will take off one day.

Im beginning to realize more and more in my life that I overthink a lot. I need to just slow down and hold on, because its never an easy ride. Life is tough, but so am I. I have been doing a lot better since i started to make my own planner inserts though. I really like the way they turned out and am excited to start making more. Doing those little things don’t let the other little things bother me. I get to preoccupied.

heres to hoping and praying my blog will soon flourish and be everything I want it to be.

 

Ginger Mama

How I started Planning

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Before I got married, I was so unorganized. I didn’t have a care in the world. I would go day by day, hour by hour. Finding things to do and missing already scheduled things. I would have plans with a friend I would forget about, doctors appointments I would miss, or even family events I’d miss. It became a huge problem for me to be quite honest. When I got married though we had a total of three kids right off the bat. Our son and then his two girls, so I had no room for missed dates anymore. I had to do something and fast.

I began searching online on how to become more organized and one day I decided to put it into affect. I decided to make a binder filled with all the things i had to do that day, week, and month. At first it was going great, I wasn’t missing or forgetting about a thing! Except I started to realize that I was slacking on my cleaning, bad.. My husband would get upset over this terribly, and it would cause us to get into an argument. Finally, I had enough and decided to add a cleaning schedule to my binder. once I inserted that, things started to run more smoothly around the house.

I was seeing a happier husband which made for a happier wife. i then began making my own inserts for my binder. Which I won’t lie, it was pretty difficult. Everything started to fall into place for me. I felt like I had everything under control until I had to start taking care of my father-in-law. He has Alzheimer’s and I take him to the doctors, visit him daily, go to the gym with him, and do his pills. Well it started to put a huge damper in my schedule, because I couldn’t find time to do everything in one day. I had to completely redo all of my inserts again to work around him as well. I began to forget things that I was told to do or appointments I made that day and it started to get really upsetting for me. I then created this insert to be able to jot down any information I needed to Blog topics, doctors appointments, refill reminders, basically anything I needed them for.

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Once I FINALLLLLLLY  got organized again life decided to knock me down one last time. I started to forget groceries! I would go to cook a meal and not have all the ingredients that I needed to make it. After doing that about 6 times I decided to make a weekly and monthly meal planning kit. This helped a lot because I shop every month and sometimes every two weeks for groceries. Next to my weekly kit had an ingredients section so I know what I need every time. This helped me because I could check my pantry, fridge, and freezer every week for the ingredients. You may wonder why I use both monthly and weekly, and that is a question I love to answer. I do it because when we go shopping at the end of each month I can compare which ingredients I need exactly for the month so we are not over or under stocked. I then do the weekly planning because it shows me what I need for that week and if I used it already I know I need to get more before that day. I try to stay as organized as possible.

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Ginger Mama

Loving Life

Sitting here tonight doing my schoolwork, yes I’m in college, I started to realize how truly lucky I am. I have a wonderful husband who works very hard to support our family. We may fight and really dislike each other at times, but we will always love one another. We have a total of 4

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