Being a Step Parent

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This blog is going to be about my experience as a step-mom. So far it has been a very rough ride. My husband and I have two children together, and he has two little girls with his ex-wife. They do NOT get along what so ever. In fact they actually hate each other. Well their two little girls are my whole world. We call our family a clan and I couldn’t be any more happy with what we have.

Their mother though, she drives me insane. She refuses to let us know anything about the children, or what is going on in their lives unless it is convenient for her. One day she may read all this, and think ‘I did it. I really did my job on making this woman’s life hell’. Which she has.. There are days it actually affects my marriage, because of how rude and inconsiderate she can be. I am a Christian woman but it is HARD being a step parent. Very hard.

Her main priority is to try to keep the children away. Sorry but that will NEVER happen. My husband and her do not see eye to eye at all, where her and I semi get along. I do it for the kids. Not her, not my husband, not myself, but for those children. She shows me no respect what so ever. Has told me several times I am not their parent so I have no say, and I don’t understand how she can say these things! I treat and love those girls as if they are my own. I have cried myself to sleep numerous times over this. Just because there is the word Step in front of mom, I am still a PARENT. They call me mom as well, and they get treated the same way my two do.

I guess I am writing this blog to let other women know there will always be light at the end of the tunnel. At least that’s what I keep telling myself. I am trying to always be optimistic and to be there for my husband, but it is hard at times. I battle a very painful health condition, take care  of the children, do the housework, raise a puppy, take care of my husband, my marriage, my father-in-law, and try to stay organized on top of it all which makes it very rough on me to be there for someone constantly. Especially when you can’t be there for yourself.

I guess all a ‘step’ mom wants, is to be treated and respected for what she really is. A MOM. I am a mother not a step mother. I have enrolled the girls into sports, I buy them clothes, feed them, and anything else they need or want, so therefore I am a mom and deserve the same respect as one. Just because I didn’t carry them or give birth to them doesn’t make me any less of a mother to them.

‘just breathe Justine, there is light at the end of the tunnel’

 

GingerMama