This morning, after my coffee of course, I decided to do my workout at home rather than the gym. I must say I really am tired now. I decided it was time for me to set aside priorities throughout my day of what needs and what I want to get done. Especially after reading this book I have been enjoying. It’s called ‘say goodbye to survival mode’ and it has helped me a lot. I am realizing now what is more important than anything else.
It has you do activities in the book to help you realize and prioritize your life. It calls it your best stuff list and everyone’s are different. My main things are as follows
- Maintain a good and heathy relationship with my husband
- Have and maintain my religion
- Spend as much quality time with my children as I can
- Exercise exercise exercise
- Write my blogs
- Maintain my home
I need to set aside how many hours a day I am going to spend on each of these. That is the hard part; finding time to get everything I want/need done in one day. As a Christian woman, my faith is important to me and I like to spend at least an hour working in my faith journal. This helps me with my relationship with the lord and feel closer to him. I started to realize with my busy schedule I have been having that I haven’t been spending enough time with my husband and my children. Yes, I am a stay at home mom but they won’t be this little for long and I need to make sure I catch every moment of every day with them. I don’t want to miss a thing. As for my husband, I don’t want our relationship to start drifting into a pattern of “how was your day” “what’s the weather like” “did you get the kids ready for school”; I want something real. Something that is going to refuel the fire we had.
I try my hardest to get everything done and say yes to do everything when in all honesty, I just need to say no sometimes. My plate is full but I keep overflowing it with more and more things. I feel like I must do certain things and it’s starting to make me have mini panic attacks from not getting everything done. For instance, my planners. I’m so dedicated to decorating them, that sometimes I forget to write in there what needs to be done and forget about it! Just the other day I forgot about a doctor’s appointment I had! Thank goodness for reminder calls!
There’s so many things in one day that I have committed myself to do and not enough time in the day to get it done. Especially since it gets dark so early now! It’s been so dreary here that I can’t get anything done outside I want to. I started to feel like I was failing at being a wife, mother, daughter, friend, everything! Then I read this book and realized I wasn’t failing I was just expecting too much of myself. If I only give myself what I can handle, then I won’t feel like a failure but I will accomplish everything that needs to be done! I can do this! I can be supermom without having to take on so manty different things!
If you feel like you can’t do something, just go through your list of things that must be done and prioritize your life. Cleaning can get done but watching your daughter take her first steps is something you can’t get back. Really reevaluate everything in your life and make it your own, to where it works for you!