Sometimes Life Gets You Down
This is a topic most people can relate to in life, and lately my life has really gotten me down. I just feel like there is so much to do and not enough time to get it done. I start feeling like this in October, and the reasoning why is because that’s when everything starts! With everything else going on in my life and adding extra stuff on top of it makes it super hard. I already go to school full time, take care of children every day, take care of my father-in-law who has Alzheimer’s, two dogs I care for, and try to keep a manageable house on top of it all.
So, when the holidays start in October, that’s when life gets me down. We have our son’s birthday and then Halloween to worry about. Now that’s not that much, but adding it on top of everything else, makes it difficult. Then November hits and you think okay I am in the clear, when in all reality I’M NOT! I have thanksgiving and black Friday to prep for. I start getting out my holiday planner in November so that way I can start planning for thanksgiving and Christmas. Did I mention we also have THREE birthdays in December as well! Our youngest is the tenth, our oldest the 20th, and my husband is the 28th.
So, planning early is the only way I can accomplish to get things done around here. It’s just that lately I have been so exhausted. I can’t find enough time in the day to get everything I want to get done, done. Also, lately when it hits 10pm I’m ready for bed! I used to be able to stay up and get things done after the kids when to sleep but since my hysterectomy I have NO ENERGY! I’m not using that as an excuse, but it’s the truth! I have found no motivation in anything lately. What do you do when you feel like this?
I’ll tell you what I did. I thought to myself, ‘you know what Justine, it’s time to get things done! Today is the day you finish what you finish what you started’. Once I got that mindset stuck in my head I decided it’s time! I got sick of my children dumping their toys all over the ground, the dishes started to pile up, laundry became outrageous, and I needed to do something about it. So, I did.
I look at being a stay at home mom as a job. My job is to clean, cook, my children, the dogs, my father-in-law, and my schoolwork. If I can accomplish just doing at bare minimum four of those things a day I feel successful! I may have a lot on my plate and a lot of unnecessary things I must deal with, but it’s my job. I can’t let life get me down, because it’s my life. I am alive and that’s something to be thankful for every day.
There may be days that you are just so overwhelmed you don’t even know where to start. You think you can’t get anything done because nothing is right. All you must do is pick one spot and start there. Just one area, and I don’t even mean a whole room, just a section of it. Start in the corner of your living room and once you finish that do another corner. Just bring all your cleaning supplies you will need for that room and start little by little. Don’t try to complete everything at once, because then you’ll end up like how I did. A partially cleaned sitting room, living room, kitchen, and kids’ rooms. I have to breakdown what I’m doing otherwise I get frustrated and want to quit. I know this tactic doesn’t work for everyone, but it works for me.
Just breathe, take a step back, and make a game plan. Choose where you want to start and get to it! Once you get it to where you like it and want to keep it that way make a schedule. One that works for you. I try to stick to a weekly and daily regime. I have my daily tasks which I do each day and on top of that I have areas for each day of the week. I also have a monthly task that I try to get done. Whether it’s the garage, basement, just things in that nature. This does help me figure out what I can get done, and by the end of the month everything has been accomplished and is up to par for me.
So, don’t worry! Everything will get done when you set your mind to it. You just must tell yourself no matter how down you may be, that you can do this! That life may get rough, but you are stronger and can do anything you set your mind to.