Prioritizing your life

This morning, after my coffee of course, I decided to do my workout at home rather than the gym. I must say I really am tired now. I decided it was time for me to set aside priorities throughout my day of what needs and what I want to get done. Especially after reading this book I have been enjoying. It’s called ‘say goodbye to survival mode’ and it has helped me a lot. I am realizing now what is more important than anything else.

 

It has you do activities in the book to help you realize and prioritize your life. It calls it your best stuff list and everyone’s are different. My main things are as follows

  1. Maintain a good and heathy relationship with my husband
  2. Have and maintain my religion
  3. Spend as much quality time with my children as I can
  4. Exercise exercise exercise
  5. Write my blogs
  6. Maintain my home

I need to set aside how many hours a day I am going to spend on each of these.   That is the hard part; finding time to get everything I want/need done in one day. As a Christian woman, my faith is important to me and I like to spend at least an hour working in my faith journal. This helps me with my relationship with the lord and feel closer to him. I started to realize with my busy schedule I have been having that I haven’t been spending enough time with my husband and my children. Yes, I am a stay at home mom but they won’t be this little for long and I need to make sure I catch every moment of every day with them. I don’t want to miss a thing. As for my husband, I don’t want our relationship to start drifting into a pattern of “how was your day” “what’s the weather like” “did you get the kids ready for school”; I want something real. Something that is going to refuel the fire we had.

I try my hardest to get everything done and say yes to do everything when in all honesty, I just need to say no sometimes. My plate is full but I keep overflowing it with more and more things. I feel like I must do certain things and it’s starting to make me have mini panic attacks from not getting everything done. For instance, my planners. I’m so dedicated to decorating them, that sometimes I forget to write in there what needs to be done and forget about it! Just the other day I forgot about a doctor’s appointment I had! Thank goodness for reminder calls!

There’s so many things in one day that I have committed myself to do and not enough time in the day to get it done. Especially since it gets dark so early now! It’s been so dreary here that I can’t get anything done outside I want to. I started to feel like I was failing at being a wife, mother, daughter, friend, everything! Then I read this book and realized I wasn’t failing I was just expecting too much of myself. If I only give myself what I can handle, then I won’t feel like a failure but I will accomplish everything that needs to be done! I can do this! I can be supermom without having to take on so manty different things!

If you feel like you can’t do something, just go through your list of things that must be done and prioritize your life. Cleaning can get done but watching your daughter take her first steps is something you can’t get back. Really reevaluate everything in your life and make it your own, to where it works for you!

 

Ginger Mama

Pure and Simple for Moms

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I am writing a review on some of the products that I received from this company. I will be very blunt and honest. They have all organic products and they truly are amazing! I love them so much. Every morning before I get ready, I mix together my youth boost and glow face masks, and put them on. The products are so genuine and unique that you want to make sure you’re not using any metal while using them. They give you a wooden spoon to use and then just find a glass bowl. It comes in powder form so you will have to mix it together, but it is well worth it. My face always feels so fresh after using them.

I am no awaiting their chap-stick and another mask called radiant. I am so excited to try this one now. They are on etsy and i will tag the link at the bottom of the article. You really need to go check them out! They sent me a sample of their whipped body butter, lemongrass, I know I will definitely be buying that next because after just one use my skin felt replenished and was so soft. Since their products are organic I suggest using filtered water when mixing the mask like I do.

When mixing the product you want to make sure there are no lumps and chunks. You want to break it all down to wear its still thick but not lumpy. You also don’t want it to be too runny either. Once done apply evenly over your face and let it sit for 20-30 minutes. I always do 30 minutes to get the extra feel good feeling. When removing the mask use a clean wash cloth with warm water to really exfoliate the skin. Your face will be red for a couple minutes but once the redness goes away you have a fresh smooth feeling across your face. I highly recommend if you are looking for a good face-mask to give them a try. They’re not expensive and you can make A LOT of masks from the amount of powder they send you. Nuska is very polite and easy to get along with. You can ask her questions and she will give you an honest answer. She even gives you tips on how to mix them if you want to mix different masks like I do.

Thank you for taking the time to read my review!

 

Here’s the shop link

https://www.etsy.com/shop/PureAndSimpleForMoms?ref=search_shop_redirect

Bringing on the New Year

Happy New Year Everyone! I can’t believe how fast this year has flown by. We gained a puppy, our youngest turned one and oldest six, our 3-year-old is reading, my marriage is stronger than ever, my family has grown by one person, and school will be over this new year! I can’t believe all the amazing things we have done and we have in store for this new year.

 

I’m going to be improving myself now this new year. I have goals set and I am sticking to them! I have started using this new face mask and it has been AMAZING! My skin feels so soft after them. They’re made by pureandsimpleformoms on etsy. They’re seriously the best thing ever and the best part is that they are all organic. So, you’re not putting any chemicals o your face that will make you have a rash or something in that nature. Personally, they work wonders for me and I hope they do you as well. I go to the gym 5-6 days a week and started to really work hard keeping up with maintaining and losing the weight rather than gaining! Especially this holiday season.

I also got my new planner that I am so excited to start using! I now have a planner for pretty much everything. Everyday life, cleaning, organizing, holidays, financing, letters to my kids, mood tracker, and also my faith journal. Yes I have decided to regrow in y faith and become a catholic. This is where my spiritual guide has lead me and I am excited to see how far it takes me. This year has been full of new changes and this new year will only continue to get better.

 

I’ve learned to just get along with other people. Some people will never change and it’s better to get along with people than to constantly bicker. Especially for my children. They deserve the world and that what I am going to give them. No matter how hard it may get sometimes it’ll all be worth it when they grow up. They may not remember much when they get older about what presents they got, or where they went, but they will remember how you acted and towards people they love.

 

This new year is going to be a great one for me and I am excited! I cannot wait for things to start happening and changing. They’re so many new surprises coming and I cannot wait to share them with you all. This is going to be my best year yet! I’m not going to make this post long because I know everyone has goals to set and is going to star5t working towards them today, right? Let’s make this our year!

 

Happy New Year

Ginger Mama

Mama’s who DON’T got it together

I may seem like a mom who has it all together, when truthfully, I am not. I suffer from anxiety and I don’t always clean my house up to par. I lose my shit. Every mom loses their shit once and a while and that’s OKAY! We do a lot and when our plates get full we just can’t help it. It’s the 23rd of December now and I still haven’t wrapped presents yet. I started them but there certainly not close to being finished. I try and try but it seems like I get nowhere.

My planners help me stay on track but sometimes they can be a pain. I like to decorate my planners and there is just too many to decorate. I am going to start a course on how to use multiple planners even though I already do, what can it hurt? I can only benefit from it. This will help me organize my life more and help with the housework!

Yes, my house is not the greatest. It’s not a wreck but its lived in. That’s how most houses look, lived in. So, before people think man this woman has it all together, I DON’T. My children drive me crazy, the dogs are nuts. I don’t always get to my housework because I’m playing with the kids, and getting to go to the bathroom alone is IMPOSSIBLE. Life is wonderful though. I wouldn’t trade these chaotic moments for anything. My life is organized mayhem and I LOVE it.

My kids have everything they need and more, plus most things they want. They’re spoiled rotten and I don’t care what people think. They dress better than me, they eat better than me, and that’s how it’s supposed to be. Your children come first no matter what. Once you decide to have a baby you decide to be a parent.

I’m not a parent who has life figured out. I’m still going to school, my husband works long hours, we are about to move, and the dogs drive me insane! These are the moments I live for. I live for the mayhem every day. It keeps me sane. Yes, I have a million planners but that doesn’t mean they’re organized!

Feel free to message me at gingermamablog@gmail.com for any helpful tips or enco0uragement you may need, if you’re a struggling momma or dad.

 

 

Ginger Mama

 

 

Been a long time but here’s my post

Nonna and Miss Marlene

I know it has been a long time since I have last written a blog, and for that I am sorry. We have been super busy at our house preparing for a little surprise that I will announce at a later date. My daughter has also been pretty ill lately. She had what started out as a small infection on her leg and ended up having to have surgery and has now been in the hospital for almost 4 days because she cannot keep anything down. My mom has been such a huge help during this time. She is sitting here now while I type on the computer (don’t worry mom I am listening to my homework video) and do my homework/blog. 

My husband has been working crazy hours lately, our son’s birthday is coming up, we celebrated our anniversary, planning for our vacation, my father-in-law is getting worse, and it just seems like everything is falling apart. You want to know how I keep pushing through it all? I look at my children. That’s my why. They are why I do so much and try to make everything perfect for them. Yeah my kids may not remember their birthday parties where we had real live princesses there or how this toy story party is going to be a big one, but that’s what I like to do. I like to see my kids happy. Having Marlene in the hospital right now has been killing me. I hate seeing my baby so sick and not being able to do anything for her anymore. It started off that she was just in so much pain, and now has turned into something so much worse. They have her on iv fluids but she isn’t having many wet diapers. Plus, when they try to feed her, she can’t keep it down at all.

My family has been a true blessing through all of this. My dad is watching my son as we speak, my mom is watching Marlene so I can type, and tomorrow their Uncle is going to watch Liam if we have to stay the night again. BEST PART COMING UP. The girl’s mom let us facetime the children while we are in the hospital. It meant a lot to me. It truly did, because for once Marlene was actually happy and smiling to see her sisters. I was shocked but even more so thankful. It meant a lot to see Marlene happy and smiling to see her sisters. It was a breath of fresh air after nights of her being miserable. Maybe this is a stepping stone for us. I hope so!!! (:

Thank you to everyone who is on my Instagram and Facebook that has been praying for my family lately. It truly means a lot. Hopefully we can go home tonight and if not today then tomorrow. I will indeed keep everyone updated on Facebook and Instagram as well. remember to never hesitate to message me!

 

Love and peace always, 

Ginger Mama

It’s a Bittersweet Moment

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It’s time for SCHOOL! That moment we are all so NOT ready for. I dropped my son off at preschool today and it was such a heartbreaking moment, but it was also an amazing moment as well. Our son has gotten so big and was so excited to start his first day of school. The teacher asked me to stay a little bit, to see how he would transition into the classroom, and he asked me to leave! Seriously!? I about cried right there and then because of that. He was playing and made a new friend as soon as he walked in the door.

He was ready to go and this mom wasn’t. I walked out of the door with tears in my eyes. I could barely make it to my car before te first tear started to shed. I never imagined it being this hard to send our children off to school. I thought it would be easy because now I get a break and will be able to get more done. NOPE! I was so wrong! It was one of the hardest things I have had to do because it means he is getting independent and won’t need me much longer.

We all want our kids to get independent and learn on their own, but we are never prepared for it to happen. Especially when it’s happening at such a young age. Our kids grow up so fast and sometimes we are so wrapped up in what needs to be done that we miss these things. I always see my son as the shy child he was a year ago and today he proved me wrong. There was a child who came up to him while he was playing and they instantly started to play together. This is something I, as a parent, was worried about. I didn’t think he would make a friend that quickly because of his shyness.

It’s that time for our children to learn for themselves and to grow up, but are we really prepared. Yes we go school shopping and help them learn at home, but we are never emotionally prepared for our children to leave us. Today I realized why my mom cried when we went to school, its because she loved us. She wasn’t ready for her babies to go off and without her. I now see this and experienced this priceless moment for myself today.

Ginger Mama

Stop apologizing for wanting a break

People think that all moms are some type of superhero or  something. That they can handle everything and are supposed to handle it all. The only thing is we can’t ever complain about it. Especially stay at home moms. The man works all day and expects you to clean, cook, care for the kids, the animals, the yard, and so much more, but never needing a break from it. Why? Because we don’t ‘work’. I’m sorry but being a stay at home mom is working and so much more. Not only are we a cook, maid, teacher, parent, landscaper, and much more but we are also just human beings. Human beings that need a break.

Yeah, my house isn’t spotless like some stay at home moms, and I am sorry about that. The thing is I’m too busy with my children to focus on my housework. I only get these moments once in a lifetime. Does my husband get irritated? Yes he does! Our house isn’t destroyed though. Its lived in. It shows that I have a corner dedicated to Marlene’s toys, my end table is crowded with my planning essentials, and our ottoman is overflowing with blankets. I need a break. From everyone in my family. Sometimes us moms need to get together and go out for a coffee to  let off some steam. Especially when we get overwhelmed with everything and life just keeps pushing us down.

Some people have husbands who take housework a little too seriously and will really get angry when the house isn’t perfect when they get home. They don understand why its not clean because they’ve been home all day and it should be spotless and there should be dinner on the table. Listen bud, I don’t know what rock you climbed out of, but some days that can’t happen. Stuff happens all the time and plans change because of them. You cant be perfect all the time and you definitely can’t blame your significant other if the house is usually clean besides one day.

So ladies I’m telling you now ASK FOR A BREAK! Just tell your significant others that you need to get out and just get away for an hour Just to see what they say. Hopefully he is an understanding man and will say yes, but if you have a man who doesn’t understand, Just foe one day have him do all the work and you be gone all day. See how he likes it. I bet right away he will apologize and let you have the break you deserve to have. It takes a lot to be a stay at home mom so never apologize for needing some alone time. We DESERVE along time. With coffee. Lots of coffee!

Teaching your children

This is one of the main things we have to do as parents. We cant just expect their teachers to do all the teaching, but we need to play our part in it too. Just recently I bought a chalkboard easel to help with my teaching. The children love having that here, because they get to interact more without a book. I think its important for children to learn hands on rather than through a screen or just in a book because it helps them remember better. They will remember drawing an apple on the board for A or a bumble bee for B. They may not remember the game they played or which letter they wrote. I noticed an improvement with the children once I started using the chalkboard.

They are kids and like to have fun so we need to make teaching fun. This is why we finger-paint letters and numbers here. This way they can learn and have fun doing so. The kids think they are just painting for fun, but in reality they are learning how to write letters and numbers. I found some pretty nifty ways on pintrest as well and the kids love them. Yeah we make a mess sometimes but that’s what we do. We always clean it up, but as long as we re having fun why get upset over a mess. There’s too many people that take these ties for granted and worry too much about the mess than what their children our doing.

You don’t get these memories back and need to enjoy them while you can. Especially now while they are young, because they grow up so fast. They wont be little long and we need to focus on shaping them for the future and making sure they are having fun still. Its important that e show our children unconditional love. We need to worry less about them getting in trouble and doing things they’re not supposed to and worry more about how were going to have fun next. We took the kids to a dolphin show not long ago and the smiles on their faces were unreal. They were so happy and were learning! The trainers were telling stories about how even farmers play a role with dolphins and the kids just sat there listening and engaging in the activities. That was an amazing experience and I’m so glad my husband took us there because even I had fun.

Life isn’t about what clothes you wear, what house you live in, and how organized you are, but its about the love you grew up with, the fun you had learning, the memories you have, and the moments you shared with one another. So we need to slow down and really evaluate what we re living for and how much time we are spending with out children. These are the moments that last a lifetime remember that.

 

Ginger Mama

Having all 4 kiddos

Well everyone and I say everyone because I absolutely love my stats feedback! Thank you everyone for reading my blogs! I hope it helps some of you! Now lately we have had all four kids for our extended vacation. I must say it has been very rough since my surgery but also very rewarding. We went to see a dolphin show! I cried (mainly from the hormone pill) because I was so happy! Our 5 year old absolutely loved it and now wants to be a dolphin trainer! Which of course I told her she can be anything that she wants to be. She is so excited. She adored watching the dolphins do flips and play around. I don’t know if it was me or her that had more fun though. That was all we talked about for 3 days straight was how awesome it was, and that we can’t wait to go back.

Well as you know I recently had a full hysterectomy at the age of 23. Now it was mandatory from all the complications I was having. I don’t like it because right now it hurts really bad, but once I heal I am so excited to live a pain free life again. The kids have been such a great help. Makayla has helped a lot with laundry cleaning, and helping mommy with the kids. Shes my little helper, even though I give her money every time she does something for me! She deserves it though, because she honestly is such a great girl when she’s here. Oh good news everyone! We will officially be getting the girls more now and I haven’t been happier. I already have so much planned from now until October. We may have a minor set back, but it will be taken care of hopefully in a respectful manner.

My husband will be going back to work here in a couple weeks which means the kiddos and I will be spending a lot of time together. I’m so happy for that, because I love the quality time we spend together. We  do a lot of fun things together because well we can. The kids are great and we have a blast. Mainly because I am still a kid at heart and they love that about me. I’m not just a mom, I’m a best friend too. You have to be a best friend to your children right now because they need that. They need a mentor to show them how to do things but a friend who is always there for them when they need it. I will always be there for my kids, no matter what. They are my everything, ALLLLL of them. Kids really just want your time and affection at these ages.

Its time for this Mama to get up and get some cleaning done! Its been really hard since my surgery, so I have fallen behind on my housework and I am going insane looking at it. So is my husband as well. It’s time to just suck it up and get it done. Have a good night everyone!

 

Peace I leave with you; my peace I give you. I do not give to you as the world gives. Do not let your hearts be troubled and do not be afraid.        John 14:27

Ginger Mama

Endometriosis

Well everyone I’m going to tell you about my health condition. I have something called endometriosis that starts off inside a woman’s reproductive system, but can spread outside of it. Which mine has done. I have my endometriosis all over my body. It is on my tubes to my kidneys, bladder, liver, and even my lungs. They are doing a full hysterectomy at 23 on Tuesday! A FULL ONE! I’m so nervous. I can only imagine the pain I am going to be in and it scares me. I won’t lie when I say I suffer from anxiety and this surgery has my anxiety on the fritz!

Hopefully, and I’m sure, everything will be okay! My father and my husband will be there for me. My dad has never missed a surgery of mine, and I was nervous he would miss this one to help mom with the kids. This is a very painful thing to have. I have lived my life in pure pain for about 3 years now, and it has been miserable. I was told for the first year I was faking my pain, that I only wanted the pain medication, when that was not the case! I finally decided to see a different doctor! She decided to do a laparoscopy where they found me covered in endometriosis. They do not know what causes it, some say its hereditary to be honest. I believe that’s how I got mine.

I was on a vitamin supplement for a very long time, and that actually helped me a lot with my pain. I was no longer suffering every day, but then I got pregnant. I had to stop taking all of my vitamins which caused my endometriosis to spread. Most people say that with the progesterone in your body with being pregnant that it won’t spread, but that was not the case for me. Mine actually got worse, and more painful. My doctor told me that I could get a shot every week to shut down my ovaries or have the full hysterectomy. Why would I want to waste money every week when I can fix he problem in a day? So we decided right then we wanted the hysterectomy. I was scared because I am only 23 years old and will be going through menopause. That is what scares me the most.

If you suffer from this disease or know some who does, don’t be afraid to shoot them my way. I can always be a support system and an advice giver. I have tried everything but nothing worked for me, and his is my last option. I’ve tried to avoid it for a long time, but its not getting any better its getting worse.

 

Ginger Mama